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Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Chivalry.

I think I'm gonna write about a serious topic this morning, considering that this is my blog, and I can do anything.

Muahahahaha.

Ok rasa nak sepak tak.

Anyway, on my way to work this morning, I was stuck in a bad traffic somewhere in Subang (eh, hari hari pun memang stuck in traffic), and there was a bus on my right side of the car. It wasn't full-house, maybe sebab it was 6:40 in the morning kot, but enough people to fill the seats. And I saw a couple of people yang terpaksa berdiri.

And most of them are women.

And most of the seated passengers are men.

And this just hits me. Why Malaysian men ni tak beberapa nak gentlemen? I mean how hard is it for them to offer their seats to these poor women?

Come to think about it,

How hard is it for them to hold the door for you when they can clearly see you have your hands full?

How hard is it for them to offer themselves to carry your heavy boxes/luggages/anything when they can clearly see you're having a hard time lifting them up?

I don't think it'll do you any harm if you could just ask whether we need some help or not.

Tapi ada lagi jantan yang disgusting, some even DENIED when we asked for help.

I don't get it.
Susah sangat ke nak derma kederat tu?

Oklah, it's not fair for me to generalize ALL Malaysian men are like that. It's MOST ASIAN men. I've seen this and experienced it first hand during my visits to all Asian countries that I've visited.

It's also not fair for me to generalize that all western men are chivalrous. Ada jugak yang macam tahi. But most western men that *I* know/met aren't like that.

I remember Don offered his seat when we were on a KTM komuter to an older lady who was NOT standing in front of him (she was standing in front of another man whom looked like he wasn't gonna give his seat away). Oklah, he could have just trying to impress me but still, that's not my point.

There was also another friend of mine who came to Malaysia for the first time, and we were on a KTM komuter as well (lol, aku tak suka drive pergi KL) and he had to do the same thing. Well this guy I know for sure that he wasn't trying to impress me because we've been friends since we were both in high school. Tapi yang paling bombastik when he asked why men over here are so selfish?

Terkedu kejap.

All I could reply was, because they weren't brought up to be such gentlemen.

I could be wrong, their parents could have done a wonderful job in raising them to respect women, it could have just been the environment that pushed them to be like this. It's a competitive world, we only need to care for ourselves.

Right?

Anyway, if you're a guy and you think I'm just writing such a bullshit story, please do comment. I'd love to hear your side of the story. I'm sorry if this post sounds like I'm attacking you, but I'm not. I'm just trying to understand WHY.

And thank you for reading. LOLOL

Alia over and out.

COMIC: Apak (secretly) loves it

Eh, Bapak aku tetiba suka pulak jadi limelight in my blog. Dulu paranoid paranoid. Skrang ber-diva uols.

Kalau mention pasal "blog" je, mesti he'd assume I'm drawing/writing (or as he calls it "doodling") about him.

Diva sesangat!

Monday, January 14, 2013

COMIC: I asked him this question a while ago...

Hoi. Mana dia dapat ni.

Tetiba la pulak nak kena panggil abang. Dengan secara otomatiknya, aku geli.

I guess I'll just stick to "Sayang" or "baby" or "honey" or "HOI!"

Why I should say thank you to YOU

Omg.
Terharunya baca your replies semua on this post!

Thank you darlings, walaupon kadang kadang (eh, kadang kadang ke?) mulut aku ni macam naga sakti mintak pelempang, tapi you guys are so patient and still boleh bagi kata kata nasihat lagi!

Your words help to ease the pain knowing I'm not alone in this situation. The feeling of having to deal with all these alone lagi membuatkan terasa sakit. The burden that I'm carrying..tapi I never thought of how others dealt with it. Selalu aku ni selfish, only think about my own problem, tak pernah terfikir orang lain pon pernah alami jugak. So thank you sebab bring me back to reality!

I want to personally say thank you to these people, (in no order ye!) Vulgarian, didi.lee, f.i.e.z.a, Nj, Hasrina, Jiji, kupu kupu biasa, this Anonymous, alis, aslina majid, sheira cakap, iekan78, xfaynx, this Anonymous, wani * ezryl, cik Ana, Wanny.. Sorry ye kalau ada terlepas nama. Sebab I'm sweating like a pig (eh apa kena mengena??) so kenot brain properly!

Your stories inspire me.

Lagi la tak sabar nak kawen kan. Hahahahaha

Anyway, a reminder to myself, your readers reflect your personality. Kalau dalam blog penuh dengan kemarahan, riak tak tentu hala, hasad kedengkian, jealous mengjeles, pin point sana sini, memang la orang yang baca pon naik menyampah. You should always appreciate your readers a.k.a friends!

You know, over the years I've learned a lot.

1
I should not blog in anger. Yes, a blog is a diary (albeit public), but rather I should learn how to blog my anger moderately. Nanti post penuh dengan F-bombs, bila family baca, terus malu

2
I should keep my blog free from political talks. People have their opinions. I have mine.

3
I should keep my blog free from religious talks. People have their opinions. I have mine.

4
I should not talk/blog bad about others. When I write about how I hate so-and-so, it just shows how much I envy that person for whatever reason. Makes me look weak :p . Baik cakap depan depan, "woi, aku tak suka kau lah". Habis cerita. Tak payah nak sorok muka depan monitor.

5I should appreciate ALL comments cause those people yang komen tu, took their time to type! They're sharing part of their lives with me with their comments! Regardless whether komen tu berniat baik, ataupon busuk. Komen komen menganjing pon have to appreciate because kalau diorg tak suka tak de maknanya diorg nak bersusah payah nak buat karangan berunsur hateful. These people deserve some credit too kiss kiss. nah, kucupan untukmu. hahahaha

6
I should learn how respond politely and properly bila tiba tiba orang tanya "eh, you blogger secondsanctuary tu kan??" Tak de la aku menggelupur nak jawab "ehhh, mana u tau nii?? ehh takk laaa" Hhah, ni jawapan paling taik aku pernah kasi. Dah sah sah la menipu, yang aku dok tepek gambar muka tu, mestilah ada yang akan kenal.

7
I should also learn how to look approachable. Tak de la asyik muka naga je. Senyum selalu! Hahaha..

8
I should appreciate my readers because without them, tak wujudlah Captain of the Universe ni. Cheeewaaahhhh. Kipas tak hinggaaaaat. But it's partly true, kalau tak de korang, tak kuasa la aku nak lukis lukis komik bagai ni. Everyday kena perah otak on what to write/draw. Tapi lately tak perah sebab otak kering kontang. Writers block. Hahahaha.

9
By blogging jugak I've expanded my networks! I met some of my good friends via blogging. Percaya tak?

I've met Nanie; my partner in crime when it comes to mencari jejaka kacak haha. She's still in the hunt. Tetiba aku nak sebok pulak mencari eye-candy. haha
I've met Nadiana; who's a blogger friend of Nans but now also my friend. Eh, mcm confused pulak.
I've met Bella; teman berlaga tetek tapi sekarang dah kawen pastu dah pakai tudung so no more laga laga. HAHAHHGADHGD
I've met C (on a different platform); who went from scandaliciousss delicious (haha!) to a friend whom sometimes annoys me greatly tapi I still keep in touch because his accent is so seksi. HAHAHSAHSJA. And don't worry, Don approves. HAHAHA!!!
I've met Kerie; who's also my daily gossiper and even though he annoys me too sometimes, tapi he's a great person to be around with
I've met theblabber; oklah tipu, ni belum jumpa. But from our conversations, he sounds like a fun guy
dan ramai lagi lah. Tetiba lupa pulak nama nama suma orang. Hahahahahahahaha