You will develop evasive maneuvers on how to evade invasive questions from people.
And you will be an expert at it.
On a side note, I implore you people NOT to ask such questions, especially with regards to family planning.
Because not everybody is as lucky/privileged/fertile as you. Some of us CAN'T have children because of various reasons. It's heartbreaking when you keep on opening old wounds.
Then, there's people like me. Having a child is the last thing on my mind right now. I have other things that take precedent in my life currently.
So by you asking when I'm going to have a kid is really like me asking when you're gonna shave your vajayjay.
It's an infringement of your privacy.
So please, enough with these questions, and just worry about your OWN business.
Thanks.
Have a great life people! :)
I’ve been married for almost 7 years and no kids. You would think people would stop asking by now, but of course not. Nak bagi pelempang je rasa. Semua orang pun mula la nak bagi all these unwanted advice. And these people are not the people that I’m close with which make it more aggravating. Gahhh…
ReplyDeleteThe appropriate question should be “how are you?” and “anything new?”. Kalau the person doesn’t mention kids, do NOT bring it up. If I want your opinion on it, I would inquire it.
Ha! So true. People will keep on giving unwanted advice. Hello, kalau aku nak nasihat ke apa, I will ask you! Arghhh! They think it's an ice breaker, nampak gayanya they have to learn how to make small talk appropriately!
DeleteI don't get it sometimes. Why can't people just mind their own business??
ReplyDeleteI get the feeling that they're only asking these questions nonchalantly. Tak fikir consequences of that kind of question to the other party.
Deletedepa tak sabaq nak tengok ampa produce cute babies kot alia..?
ReplyDeletebut then again, orang kita memang suka tanya soklan yang pada depa adalah 'soalan biasa' atau 'saja tanya khabar'. hanya disebabkan depa dah lepas fasa tersebut, tak bermakna depa dapat lesen besaq nak tanya secara pukal kat orang lain yang belum lagi, kan?
anak, jodoh, ajal tu semua kan urusan dan rahsia allah. siapa kita nak persoal lebih-lebih?
I agree. These questions bagi depa are "normal questions" seangkatan dengan "how are you". Bagi depa "how are you" tu kira soalan skema habis lah.
Deleteyes.. aku dah kawen almost 4 thn.. ok ok... mcm lama sgt bila ckp 4... 3thn lebih... hahahhaa... still xde rezeki... tu yg makin lama makin pelik2 jawapan aku bagi.. kawan aku pon seangkatan... aku tanya dia jawab apa.. and she said "saya dah try tanya Allah pagi tadi... dah misscall... Allah belum jawab lagi bila rezeki tu sampai... nanti klu Allah dah respon sy bgtau makcik".. hahaha... aku skang slalu guna "doa kan lah"... if diaorg respon "dah doakan tp kenapa xde lg ni?"... and aku akan jawab "doa lebih sikit"... if they everrrr sambung lg tanya aku akan jawab "doa org banyak dosa sakitkan hati org mcm makcik ni mmg susah makbul"...
ReplyDeleteHAHAHAHAH OMG I LOVE your friend's reply!! Nanti aku nak guna!
DeleteDulu before kawen, ramai orang tanya "bila nak kawen", jawapan stended aku "doa kan lah". Pastu orang asyik tanya soalan yang sama je, aku tukar jawapan "nak sponsor ke?". haha
If I have a dollar or ringgit every time people ask me this question, I would be rich by now.
ReplyDeleteMakcik2 tanya tu biasa dah, it's like a normal question. Yang menjengkelkan is that ada yang tanya tu ada yang belum kahwin lagi, and lagi worst bila dia lelaki, sibuk tanya are we pregnant or not. Memang rasa nak balas balik but then I won't stoop down to their standard, no point to give a mean retort back.
Gosh, I really wish these people realize that this kind of subject is sensitive. They are just plain ignorant. Kene nanti kat muka or keluarga sendiri barulah tau rasanya kot.