I think I'm gonna write about a serious topic this morning, considering that this is my blog, and I can do anything.
Ok rasa nak sepak tak.
Anyway, on my way to work this morning, I was stuck in a bad traffic somewhere in Subang (eh, hari hari pun memang stuck in traffic), and there was a bus on my right side of the car. It wasn't full-house, maybe sebab it was 6:40 in the morning kot, but enough people to fill the seats. And I saw a couple of people yang terpaksa berdiri.
And most of them are women.
And most of the seated passengers are men.
And this just hits me. Why Malaysian men ni tak beberapa nak gentlemen? I mean how hard is it for them to offer their seats to these poor women?
Come to think about it,
How hard is it for them to hold the door for you when they can clearly see you have your hands full?
How hard is it for them to offer themselves to carry your heavy boxes/luggages/anything when they can clearly see you're having a hard time lifting them up?
I don't think it'll do you any harm if you could just ask whether we need some help or not.
Tapi ada lagi jantan yang disgusting, some even DENIED when we asked for help.
I don't get it.
Susah sangat ke nak derma kederat tu?
Oklah, it's not fair for me to generalize ALL Malaysian men are like that. It's MOST ASIAN men. I've seen this and experienced it first hand during my visits to all Asian countries that I've visited.
It's also not fair for me to generalize that all western men are chivalrous. Ada jugak yang macam tahi. But most western men that *I* know/met aren't like that.
I remember Don offered his seat when we were on a KTM komuter to an older lady who was NOT standing in front of him (she was standing in front of another man whom looked like he wasn't gonna give his seat away). Oklah, he could have just trying to impress me but still, that's not my point.
There was also another friend of mine who came to Malaysia for the first time, and we were on a KTM komuter as well (lol, aku tak suka drive pergi KL) and he had to do the same thing. Well this guy I know for sure that he wasn't trying to impress me because we've been friends since we were both in high school. Tapi yang paling bombastik when he asked why men over here are so selfish?
All I could reply was, because they weren't brought up to be such gentlemen.
I could be wrong, their parents could have done a wonderful job in raising them to respect women, it could have just been the environment that pushed them to be like this. It's a competitive world, we only need to care for ourselves.
Anyway, if you're a guy and you think I'm just writing such a bullshit story, please do comment. I'd love to hear your side of the story. I'm sorry if this post sounds like I'm attacking you, but I'm not. I'm just trying to understand WHY.
And thank you for reading. LOLOL
Alia over and out.