I know I should be blogging about my HK trip (eh, perlu ke?) but I figured that can wait since officially a blogger has up to 4 months window time of having to update on her recent trip!!!
Ok ok I just made that up. Totally random, but incredibly believable!
But right now I want to talk about how our gomen system sucks balls.
Lately, my conversation with mak only revolves around marriage, visa, potential children and um, yeah, marriage. Which is understandable since I'm gonna get married anyways (omg, this just hit me, I AM GETTING MARRIED!!!)
Since mak's friends are from different cultures and different races and been there and done that kinda deal, and I'm just this unfriendly creature that has less friends than her, she got like a gazillions of information about our inter-marriage.
So recently, she had a lunch date with a bunch of her ex school mates and one of them got married while they were studying and got a kid there and the kid now is no longer a kid cause she's already like 29 years old or something.
Since she was born there and her father is an Irish, she automatically became an Irish but since he's Irish so he's always drunk and abusive by nature, the mother had a divorce and flew back here to Malaysia with the kid.
omg where the hell am I going with all this extra long intro??!
Anyways, the kid got her Malaysian citizenship at the age of 16 and a couple of months ago, she was getting ready for marriage (with a true Malaysian). So since our regulations here requires the father's presence or the father's oral/written permission, her case was halted.
I mean she got a valid reason what, her father abandoned his family when she was 3 years old. Why need him sumore???
So she explained her situation to the gomen office how she has not seen her father nor know where her father is yadda yadda yadda, I mean if you've lost contact with your father for yonkers of years, why in the world you need him JUST to approve your marriage right???
And you know what the office replied??
"Then go get married in Thailand lah"
Is THAT a gomen officer's solution to all kind of civilians problems? Go run away and take your problems with you??
Then what happens if they get married in Thailand and come back??
Then the gomen officer will be all anal:
"OH YOU GOT MARRIED IN THAILAND WITHOUT OUR GOVERNMENT'S DISCRETION HENCE HERE'S A PENALTY OF RM2000"
That's just illegal in so many ways.
I mean you work as a gomen officer representing the gomen thus representing a country, please lah be more courteous and caring towards the nation!! We came to you for your professional advise and you told us to run away??
Now WHO'S running away?? It seems like YOU are running away from YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES!
Sure sometimes some cases might not be as simple as ABC, that's where you step in and re-route us!
Anyhow, I don't judge all gomen officers are super anal, cause her case was highlighted to the top ranked people and and was approved without the consent of her (non existent) father.
So credits to the gomen as well.
But, what would happen if her family (particularly mother) didn't know any top-notch officers??? What do you think would happen???