Hari ni kita take a break from talking about myself ya? Kita cakap pasal kisah dunia pulak.
I'm sure for those of you yang added/followed me on Facebook have seen this post a while ago, but I just feel like talking about it again.
Because I can, and I want to. *muka bengis*
I've seen a lot of my family members especially and my younger siblings' friends got married at such an early age. There's nothing wrong with getting married, but what I think is wrong is that they have their priorities wrong. Their first order of business after graduation is to get married. Some even tak sempat tunggu graduate dah kawen. Angan-angan sejak kecik, nak pakai wedding dress, nak majlis kawen grand, instead of setting up a bigger goal, like securing for a better future.
Getting married isn't a guarantee that you'll find eternal happiness you know. There are many reasons for a divorce, and one of the culprits is finances. Kalau you don't have a good job, macam mana nak support your family? I can't help but imagine that I'm a fresh grad, kerja pun belum tentu dapat, pastu terus kawen , and kalau dah kawen, of course lah dah beranak pinak, then I'm being forced to either stay at home and jaga anak, or shove my kids to my parents which IS NOT their responsibility anyway.
Oh and before I forget, I know this might offend some of you, but I really don't get it why it's unusual for a (recently) married couple NOT planning to have a child as soon as possible.
Call me crazy or whatever (I'd prefer "RESPONSIBLE" thank you very much) but I don't believe in cepat-cepat buat anak lepas kawen. Dah la kawen muda, your salary/your spouse's salary barely make ends meet, then tiba-tiba perut boyot.
Having kids aren't always financially feasible. Banyak duit kena guna untuk anak. If you can't even commit to pay your house rent/or whatever religiously, then how are you going to commit to the lifetime of financial expenses? Kalau your PTPTN loan pun terbengkalai, kau expect nak tanggung 4 orang anak? If you can hardly afford to live well now based on your income, then how can you be expected to give a child the life that they deserve??
Takkan susu diapers pun your parents nak kena belikan?
I personally think it's SELFISH of you if you can't even provide the basic necessities for your household and yet you're planning of having another mouth to feed in the house.
I'm sick and tired of hearing people saying shit like "oh your biological clock is ticking!" or "You're missing out on one of the best things in life"
First of all, I'm not bringing a child into this world when I can barely afford to own a goddamn house because I'm a responsible fucking person, and secondly, "the best thing in life"? Says who? You? I might say that owning a dog is the best thing in life, would you agree?
Anyway, as I was saying, marriage isn't a measurement of success. I wish people would just stop and think about this for a second. There are so many people in this world use their marriage as a success story in life (I know I'm guilty of it - I've realized that's not the case. I've hit a milestone yes, but that doesn't mean I should just kick my feet up and call it done). I want to make a million bucks. I want to own 10,000 cars. I want to own a multi-billion dollars worth of a company. I want to travel the whole world. I want to move to Africa. The list is endless. I'm not stopping at "OH I GOT MARRIED. PHEW. I'M DONE."
I also personally think that you should get to know your significant other well before committing. You might not share the same vision of success. You might have different priorities and interests. I think I've said this in my earlier posts that having a common interest is essential in a relationship. Kalau you have nothing in common, then why are you together? You'll just inevitable grow apart.
So if you're 17 and you're getting married soon.....how long have you ACTUALLY known your spouse?? I hate to say this, but if you're still in your teens or even early 20s, it's quite possible that your pemikiran masih tak matang lagi. You only think of what's fun now, not the lifetime commitment ahead.
Statistics cakap, those yg kawen muda ni are likely to get divorced, because they aren't prepared for what comes next.
Masa you muda, you don't know yourself. You change a lot. Sebab tu when you're older, you're more stable because you know where you're going. You've also matured and ready for whatever. You're more likely to have set yourself up career and financial wise.
Anyway, there's always an exception to everything. It's not fair for me to say that age alone is a deciding factor for longevity of a marriage.
So if you got married young and your marriage is still going strong, kudos to you.
Gahhh. There are so much shit I want to say about this, but I'm extremely tired uols. Mata dah kuyu-kuyu.