I wanted to talk about Malaysian politics, tapi macam tak aware sangat dah with the bullshit that's has been going on. I admit, I couldn't care less anymore, penat aku menyalak, tapi bila menyalak sikit, kena tangkap/saman. hihi.
Bukan aku la yang kena saman/tangkap tu.
Aku ni rakyat marhaen saja.
My tahap menyalak tu tak sampai viral trending twitter bagai.
Speaking of viral post, teringat satu post on FB hari tu about someone wrote something about her married life.
I know I've talked about marriage in my previous post, but this is a continuation on that.
I don't remember much about the post, because I think I stopped reading when she mentioned she felt guilty bila nampak laki dia pegang penyapu.
You're either too young to understand partnership, or too naive to think that ALL house chores are your responsibilities and only yours.
Oklah, maybe she meant something completely different sebab salah aku tak baca habis, so kalau her post tak de kena mengena, ahkak mintak maap ya. But I want to talk about that part where she mentioned about her guilt.
Ni mentality manusia (not necessary just Malaysians, Americans pun sama) that I really disagree, the men are expected to do NOTHING in helping out in the kitchen/house chores. Maybelah setakat buang sampah or fix here and there. Tapi kalau bab bab sapu sampah, basuh baju, gosok baju, masak, basuh pinggan, kemas rumah, etc, semua expect bini yang buat.
This reminds me of another viral post that someone on my FB shared. This one ostad or at least his fan page buat comparison on what you should teach/expose your kids to, depending on their gender.
Yang lelaki dia di suruhnya instill leadership qualities where the girls di suruhnya cover up and don't dress up like a man.
Yang lelaki di suruhnya buat kerja luar, outdoor where the girls di suruhnya buat kerja rumah.
Yang lelaki di suruhnya elakkan beli mainan "perempuan" (pinggan mangkuk, dolls, pakaian, etc) and the girls di suruhnya elakkan beli mainan "lelaki" (senapang, robot, kereta, etc)
Yang lelaki di suruhhnya buat international passport for them to venture out, while the girls di suruhnya ajar memasak, hias, dan kemas rumah, jaga anak, jahit, etc.
What the fuck.
There are so many wrongs in this table I don't know where to begin.
This is sexist, misogynistic, and regressive. This is the epitome of subjugation and people who believe this kind of bullshit are the reason why women are still deemed inferior to men.
No, I'm not a feminist, but I believe that you SHOULD NOT only teach your kids based on their gender. This is gender biased and is a form of prejudice and discrimination. You should teach your kids BOTH roles and excel at EVERYTHING. Give them the opportunities. Expose them to everything and don't stop stop there. If your boy wants to play dress up, then let him. If your girl wants to play with robots, then let her.
Kalau you have no problems with his statement, then you should not bitch if you're a woman and you get less pay than your male colleagues in the same role, performance and experience. Or if you're holding a leadership position, then drop out, you're a woman, you're not a leader.
Kalau you have no problems with his statement, then you should not bitch if you're a man and you get lash out for being a PA or secretary or even a nurse just because you're a male.
The moment you
allow gender to play a part, you become part of the problem.
So back to what this ostad/fan page was saying. The males get all the opportunities they can while let the females sit and home and be domestic. Pemikiran macam ni la kenapa Malaysia masih mundur because we still subjugate our women.
Lelaki jadi bos. Perempuan jadi hamba abdi.
Fuck you and your misogynistic mind.