Keywords that came to my blog.
Macam biasa la, we've got horny perverts trying to score some sexy time with the masseuse, underage girls, blah blah. You know the drill.
Aku rasa, keywords yg datang ke blog aku, semuanya sex-related. Padahal I only have 2-3 entries je about calling those pervs out.
Lagi ramai masuk.
Lagi untung aku.
Anyway, I stumbled upon this particular keyword that I pretty much have an experience on.
A lot of experience I might say.
STEP 1: FUCK THEM.
To whoever yg googled this, I have one advice for you: FUCK THEM. FUCK 'EM ALL.
Ok. On a serious note, there's really nothing you can do. Mulut orang memang tak boleh nak di control. They can say whatever they want. It's their prerogative.
But it's YOUR prerogative to whether you want to feel offended or not.
I mean I get it. Words hurt. I've been there at least a dozen times. I cried and bitched about it. Though bitching about it helps. Cause most of the times, you'll get people supporting your back. I mean, I know it's not your goal to get people's approval, but I'm just saying, it helps when you have a support group.
But of course, sometimes you'll get dickwards too. Trolling on your page, saying nasty shit. Blah blah blah. Lantak pi la depa nak cakap apa. Bukannya diorg put food on your table.
If you know these dickheads in real life, cut them out. No, not literally. but cut them out from your life. Disassociate them. Oust them. Unfriend them from your facebook/Instagram/Snapchat/Twitter/whatever lah. I've done this so many times to so many dickheads. If they want to be vile and hateful, then they don't deserve to be my friends. I'm awesome and I only keep awesome friends.
The Malays are usually musuh dalam selimut. Depan kita, bukan main manis mulut. Tapi kat belakang, mulut mcm lubang taik. So usually if you confront them, or call them out, they won't do shit. Terkejut agaknya. Some might reconsider their actions, some, might get violent. This is when you walk away, and unfriend them.
I know I know. "kau cakap senang je nak unfriend them".
That's because it is easy.
How do you unfriend someone in real life?
Walk away when they're talking.
Delete their phone numbers.
Unfollow them on your social media.
How do you unfriend someone online?
There's a button specifically called "UNFRIEND"
You're an intelligent creature. You can think of something.
STEP 2: EMBRACE IT.
Ok, so once you've clean up your list, but you still can't filter everyone out. Again, you can't stop people from being a douchebag. But what you can stop, is being affected by their words.
Embrace your body shape.
Embrace your kekurangan (or kelebihan lemak)
Joke about it.
I call myself "mak walrus" because I KNOW that I'm fat. I'm not trying to deny that fact. I KNOW that people are still gonna keep calling me fat. But those words don't hurt me anymore, because how could they hurt me if I, MYSELF AM CALLING MYSELF FAT??
You get this logic?
It's like me saying "Hey aku gemuk"
Then people are like "Hey kau ni gemuk"
No shit Sherlock.
I JUST said that I'm fat.
Why are you repeating after me?
Got nothing original ah?
Then that opens up to you insulting their intelligence.
See where I'm going?
Ok lah, that was a bad example. But you get what I mean!
I think people have exhausted their insult-vocab when it comes to ad hominem attacks. I've heard them all. And they get old really quickly.
Step 3: DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Finally, the last step.
If you're not happy with how they way you look, CHANGE IT. Get your ass up and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Change your diet. Change your lifestyle.
I mean there's really no point of you sitting there, crying about how people are calling you fat, ugly and whatnot.
Baik la kau gunakan your anger and frustration on bersenam.
IF you're content with how you look, then whatever la. You can stay big.
Though for various medical reasons, I STRONGLY DO NOT recommend it. You can at least take 20-mins walk around your block. Or if it's too hot (I understand Malaysia's weather), turun naik tangga a couple of times.
I'm not the best of person to give out nasihat on bersenam, because I'm super lazy. Pemalas nak mampos hahahahahahaha. But I'd try to allocate about 30mins a day just walking on my treadmill, or just a quick 10mins walk on my neighborhood.
I'm watching on my food intake (though, not so much lately. Lately aku main ngap je - but still try to keep within my 1500cal a day).
Listen, if this pemalas-nak-mampus-mak-walrus can do it, why can't you?
So in the conclusion, it all DEPENDS ON YOU. If you want to feel offended or not. If you want to do something or not. If you want to let those hurtful words dictate your life or not.
There's only so much that people can HELP you with, but most of the hard work and decision making, are yours alone.
I'm no professional, so you shouldn't take me word for word. I'm just telling you on how *I* have been dealing with it. What works for me might not works for you.
So I'm gonna end this post, with a picture of this mak walrus, because why the hell not? LOL